Why We Do What We Do


A dear dear friend is torn between his job and his family. According to him, he took up the job because his parents thought that was the best job for him and they wanted him to work there. On the other hand, he didn’t like the job at all.

Sometimes in life, we do certain things to gain love, approval and appreciation (LAA) from people whom we love. We were so attached to gaining the LAA from them that we never asked the one that matter the most —— our dear self.

We could go on like that for a while and one day we just couldn’t take it anymore. We want a way out. And we think we need a very good reason to justify our actions. We start to blame them for making us do what we don’t like, we feel angry that they never care about what we like. That’s usually how the story goes.

Like Katie says, “Until we take responsibility for our thoughts and actions, the world would be our enemy”.

Free 2-Hr Introductory Workshop at BGF

People asked me why I am doing so much with the Chinese in China and not much in Malaysia. I told them that I am lazy, and I don’t see the need of The Work here since no one really asked for it. After a conversation with a dear friend who is a licensed counselor about the rising number of people who are depressed in the country, I thought I would do my part in sharing The Work.

I have given two free introductory workshop here in Buddhist Gem Fellowship at Ara Damansara this month of June, leading to a weekend workshop in a few months.

Gift of A Body


Starting to turn around from a diarrhea that lasted for 5 days. To me, there was a lot of gifts in this period of time. It was a time for me to slow down, to honor this kind and loving body that I am residing in.

I remembered how I used to disengage from this body with the strict rigid beliefs that the body is impermanent, that I shouldn’t pay attention to it, should evolve beyond the body. In that, I never really checked in with my body at all. I still remembered those days when I had menstruation cramps, I kept asking why I was in a woman’s body instead of a man’s.

It is really very painful to live from a place where we deny what is in front of us, believing that we should be having the opposite of what we have now. We totally cut off from the possibilities of the best experience from what is happening to us.
“Things happen for us, not to us”. Are you brave enough to let go of the victim role and step forward to look inside ourselves and explore how it could be true that what we are experiencing now is best for us?

Why is it best for me to have the diarrhea?
Why is it best for me to be in a woman’s body?

And the best part is, whatever answers I may find within myself and shared with you could only be a reference for you. The gift is you going in to find your own answers. Why is it good for me….

And with that mindset, we embark on a journey of life filled with gratitude and humility.

Mind Excellence, July 2017

Did a one-day corporate event with upper management of a foreign manufacturing company. A group of men and women of diversed race and culture, came together to explore and to understand the reasons of their stress and a way out of it.

They came to see how easy “The Work” is and how come they only get to know about it now. That thought came across my mind when I first found The Work 15 years ago. 🙂

And they found something that they can give their colleagues and subordinates and help them to have more clarity in their lives.

Working with Buddhist Youths II, June 2017

Was invited to run a half day event for the 40th. INCOVAR Dhamma Camp organized by Buddhist Gem Fellowship. It’s a yearly camp for the buddhist youths to come together and practise and learn the dhamma in a fun and creative way.

A big thank you to Bhante Kumara for giving me a chance to introduce and share “The Work” with the Buddhist youths. It’s a privilege to see their courage and willingness to be vulnerable, to be willing to explore the unchartered possibilities at other side of their mind.

Working with Buddhist Youths

Was invited to run a two-day workshop for the committee members of Buddhist Gem Fellowship

Such bright youths eager to help other youths overcome fears and pain in their lives. In the process of learning and acquiring this tool, “The Work”, they realized that it was them that they have to work on first and in that, it helps the one that they give The Work to later.

It was a privilege to work with their “growing pains” and experienced their openness in sharing what was hurting and causing them stress.

Mental Cleanse March 2017

I did a 3-day mental cleanse in Shanghai back in March, 2017. It was the first time that I ran this event. Sitting down on the chair starting at 8:30 in the morning, lunch in between and last sitting that usually ended around 6:30p.m. It was held at a very nice Buddhist studio that was recommended by a dear friend.

It was a really dear experience to sit and explore possibilities with everyone that sat with me, both on the hot seat and the hard small chairs. We all went through the transformation together. I heard laughter, tears, faces of contemplation, men and women with faces of young children that started to change and grew up.

Why are you not doing what you love?

Do-What-You-Love

Met up with an old friend last weekend.  She was very excited as she just received her certification in yoga.  She started to teach part time in her friend’s studio.  It’s a joy seeing her finally getting to do what she enjoys.

So often in life, we just hold on to what we wanted to do.  And we give excuses like:

Wait till I am rich…
Wait till I have this XXXX amount of money…
Wait till my kids are grown…
Wait till my wife approve of it…

There is really nothing wrong with holding off… I always believe that there is a time for everything.  However,  many people hold that dream far away, it seems to help them to stay anchored in this dream.  The ego feels safe thinking it has an unfulfilled dream that it needs to do whatever it is doing now to work towards it.

This is when death comes as a great teacher.  It takes out right into the core of who we are.  Given this amount of time that we think we have, what is it that is really important to us?  Do we still want to continue this way of life we are living, do we still want to sweat over this stuff that is bothering us, do we want to carry this emotional burden to our death beds?

Death and sickness allows us to take an honest inventory into our lives on earth.  And we start to make amendments in our lives and start anew NOW.  We never ever lose when death comes, birth always awaits on the other side.  Without the concept of death, would there be life?

I am NOW and now I AM.