I recently posted a poll for people in my facebook group to choose between wanting to be loved unconditionally and wanting to love unconditionally. What sparked me to do this is I have come across many courses and books out in the business world and what I noticed is that almost all the methodology implemented were on wanting to be perceived a certain way. And that is also true for self-help books. It’s also about learning what to do to get what we want from others.
And if I have to choose between learning to be loved unconditionally or to love unconditionally, my choice would be to learn to love unconditionally. I find that that is the only sane choice for me. With learning to be loved unconditionally, it sounded like there is something I can learn to do or act to make someone love me. It sounded hopeless and too much work. Everyone is different in their ways of showing their love. If I have 10 friends, I would have to learn 10 different ways. And I would have to wait for them to show me if what I am doing works. Too much work!!!! But if I can love unconditionally, I am already getting the joy that I want and if it is true that the outside is my projections, the more unconditionally that I can love someone and myself, I would have to see that they are loving me unconditionally also.
And the best part is I can’t really know how that would look on the outside. How exciting!