Why are you not doing what you love?

Do-What-You-Love

Met up with an old friend last weekend.  She was very excited as she just received her certification in yoga.  She started to teach part time in her friend’s studio.  It’s a joy seeing her finally getting to do what she enjoys.

So often in life, we just hold on to what we wanted to do.  And we give excuses like:

Wait till I am rich…
Wait till I have this XXXX amount of money…
Wait till my kids are grown…
Wait till my wife approve of it…

There is really nothing wrong with holding off… I always believe that there is a time for everything.  However,  many people hold that dream far away, it seems to help them to stay anchored in this dream.  The ego feels safe thinking it has an unfulfilled dream that it needs to do whatever it is doing now to work towards it.

This is when death comes as a great teacher.  It takes out right into the core of who we are.  Given this amount of time that we think we have, what is it that is really important to us?  Do we still want to continue this way of life we are living, do we still want to sweat over this stuff that is bothering us, do we want to carry this emotional burden to our death beds?

Death and sickness allows us to take an honest inventory into our lives on earth.  And we start to make amendments in our lives and start anew NOW.  We never ever lose when death comes, birth always awaits on the other side.  Without the concept of death, would there be life?

I am NOW and now I AM.

Workshop coming up in June 2015

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Question your Thinking, Change your Life.

I need more money”,

I’m too fat”,

he/she doesn’t appreciate me”,

the world’s not safe”.

Thoughts like these may constantly run through our minds, fostering fear, anger, struggle, stress, loneliness, and depression. How would your life be if these thoughts don’t bother you like they used to again?

This weekend retreat is designed for those new to The Work of Byron Katie as well as those who are experienced in The Work of Byron Katie.

People who do The Work as an ongoing practice commonly report:

Alleviation of depression: Find resolution, even happiness, in situations that were once debilitating.

Decreased stress: Live with less anxiety or fear.

Improved relationships: Experience deeper connection and intimacy with your partner, your parents, your children, your friends, and yourself.

Reduced anger: Understand what makes you angry and resentful and become reactive less often, with less intensity.

Increased mental clarity: Live and work more intelligently and effectively, with integrity.

More energy: Experience a new sense of ongoing vigor and well-being.

More peace: Discover how to become “a lover of what is.”

Begin The Wor

This weekend offers an opportunity to immerse yourself in The Work as you:

  • Inquire into issues on relationships, work, family, body, etc.
  • Understand the working of your mind and identify patterns of thoughts.
  • Learn to discover new possibilities and different perspectives in all life situations.
  • Experience facilitating as well as being facilitated in this simple process.
  • Discover the power of finding your own truth.
  • Experience the freedom of you without your story.


What is more exciting than to know that you now have a tool to free yourselves from the bondage of these stressful thoughts – truly a new beginning to start living a freer life, which is your birthright!!!

 

Workshop Details:

Date: June 6-7, 2014
Time: Fri: 9:00a.m. – 5:00p.m.
Cost: RM700, Includes workshop fee & lunch
Venue: 11, Jalan SS 23/11, Taman Sea, 47400 Petaling Jaya, Selangor, Malaysia


To register, contact Sue Lee at:
sklee123@gmail.com, 017-367-1337

Sue Lee is a Certified Facilitator of The Work and a trainer for the Institute forCF_THE WORK_LOGO The Work (ITW) certification program. For the past 9 years, she has been sharing The Work with people all over the world through tele-classes and also giving live workshops in Malaysia, Singapore, China, andthe United States. She has been described as an inspiring and passionate trainer. She doesn’t teach from the book, but through her overall experience helping people to inquire into their stressful thoughts. Her passion and enthusiasm in sharing The Work empowers participants to continue to identify and undo stressful beliefs, even long after the workshop.

 

About Byron Katie

The Effects of “The Work” on Psychological Symptoms and Quality of Life—A Pilot Clinical Study

Eckhart Tolle says, “Byron Katie’s Work is a great blessing for our planet.”
Time Magazine calls Katie “a spiritual innovator for the new millennium.” 

 

Activities in Penang last November, 2014

Was invited to give a one day workshop to secondary school students of 15-17 years old and two-day workshop for teachers and counsellors.

Amazed with their openness and willingness to explore the new possibilities.  Had an awesome time with them!

penang student photo

Followed by two full-day workshop for teachers and counsellors.  Again, fun and challenging at first for the I-Know-Mind.  Lots of laughter and ah-ha’s.

penang teacher workshop

Personality doesn’t love, Part 1

“Personality doesn’t love, we/they always want something”

I hear this from Katie many years ago and coming to see the truth of this statement has liberated me from many unnecessary pain in my life.

For years, we have been told and taught ways to be.
“Be generous, don’t be selfish…”
“Be kind, always be polite, don’t be rude….”
Just to name a few.
And if we really look hard enough, are we all kind, polite and generous?  Why aren’t we?
Some of us spend so much time striving to be that and when we aren’t as good as we thought we are, we punish ourselves, we abuse ourselves.  And if we are “good” enough we project out onto others, and we get upset when we read about how people are not kind, not generous and rude to each other.

If we have enough courage to go inside, we come to see that every time I TRY to be kind, polite, generous, doing good, I am trying to get something for myself.  I am trying to do, say something or act in certain way so that you will think certain way about me, to give me what I want – the image that I want you to see me as.  And this is a lot of hard work.

So, the question is, if we don’t work so hard to be kind, polite and generous, does it mean that we are cruel, rude and selfish?  This is what your mind would have you think.

Is it really true that if one does’t act that way, one is cruel?
How do I treat the person when i think this thought?
How would I treat him/her if I never have the thought that if he/she doesn’t do this, he/she is cruel?
And with a turnaround that he/she is kind, if our minds are open enough, we come to see that what he/she does can be a kind thing also.

 

 

The Work Retreat in Hat Yai, Thailand

 The Work Retreat in Hat Yai, Thailand

Question Your Thinking and Change Your Life – Using The Work of Byron Katie

“I need more money”

“I’m too fat”

“he/she doesn’t appreciate me”

“the world’s not safe”

Thoughts like these may constantly run through our minds, fostering fear, anger, struggle, stress, loneliness, and depression.

How would your life be if these thoughts don’t bother you like they used to again?

This weekend retreat is designed for those new to The Work as well as those who are experienced in The Work. This weekend offers an opportunity to immerse yourself in The Work as you:

  • Inquire into issues on relationships, work, family, body, addictions, etc.
  • Experience practical exercises that challenge habitual and destructive thought patterns to find freedom and peace.
  • Discover and transform unhelpful beliefs with ‘The Work’, a simple yet profound method of finding happiness.
  • Experience facilitating as well as being facilitated in this simple process.
  • Discover the power of finding your own truth.
  • Experience the freedom of you without your story.

Bonus: Each participant will receive a FREE 75-minute one-to-one session (worth USD80) over Skype with Sue within a month after the end of workshop.

What is more exciting than to know that you now have a tool to free yourselves from the bondage of these stressful thoughts—truly a new beginning to start living a freer life, which is your birthright!!!

Certified Facilitator

For Registration, contact: 

Sue Lee
sklee123@gmail.com
Phone No: +6017-367-1337
skype: pinenutter
Schedule
Friday–Sunday, 15–17 August 2014
Friday 9 a.m.–8 p.m.
Saturday 8:30 a.m.–8 p.m.
Sunday 8:30 a.m.–5 p.m.
Location
Anveekshana Foundation / Stream Garden
Patong sub-district Hadyai district
Songkhla province 90230, Thailand
streamgarden.org
Cost
$565—Early Bird, pay before 1 June 2014
$595—pay by 1 July
$645—pay by 15 July
Lodging and Meals
Contact Troy Santos at Stream Garden for booking of accommodation: troysantos@gmail.com

 

Does Scolding & Judging work?

A dear friend told me she constantly judged herself as stupid and dumb when she found herself not performing at the level that she wanted herself to be at or when she found herself not knowing what to do.

Our mind tells us that if we scold ourselves enough, we would change for the better or smarter. And this concept has been carried down for generations without inquiring into the truth of it. Does it help if we scold ourselves?

When we inquire into the truth of our stupidity, we may come to see that we are forcing ourselves to be good in something that we have no interest in or something that we think we have to do and not something we want to do. We live in a confused state.

We can be very skillful in something and absolutely “stupid” in another field. But, if we hold the thought that we have to be good in everything or in a field that we hold as a goal for us, we fail to recognise our gifts in life, we deplete ourselves the energy and motivation to excel and be the best that we can be in areas that really interest us. Instead, we walked around trying to be everything for everyone.

Maybe instead of judging and scolding ourselves, we may start to pay attention and notice what we are good at and what we really don’t want to involved in. We may spare ourselves lots of time in finding and pursuing our passion in life.

Why Question our Thinking?

free kid
Someone asked me the other day why question our thinking? Why don’t they learn some techniques to stay centered and calm instead?

To be honest, I think learning techniques to stay centred and calm is wonderful. We can learn meditation, breathing techniques, learning to have body awareness. They are all great ways to have the body-mind connection that people talk about. And I am all for them!

Questioning our thinking is a totally different level of ball game. We are looking at things at the causal level. There is this sequence that people who does The Work recognise —
“The Order of Creation”: Think -> Feel -> Act -> Have

Everything is born from a thought, a belief. So, we identify the emotions that signal us that something is off with the belief that we are attached to and with this indication from the emotions felt, we identify and question the belief that is limiting us. Through inquiry into this belief, we come to understand at an experiential level the truth and falseness of the thought and naturally be free from it. And calmness and centerness is experienced effortlessly.

Do we have to teach babies to breathe naturally, to be calm and centered? That is its’ natural state. Only adults have to learn this and to master how to do it right and sticking to doing the right thing disconnects us from our feelings sometimes. We feel angry with a person and we learn techniques to deal with the person, to handle our anger, but we have not looked at the root of the problem, why we are angry with him/her in the first place. Once we come to undo the cause of the anger, there is less effort needed to learn to handle our anger.

“Free the mind, the rest will follow” i love the title of En Vogue’s song.