Working with Limiting Beliefs Pt 1

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Every now and then when I attend a talk, a class or a workshop, I would always hear speakers talk about the conscious and subconscious mind, about how the limiting beliefs in the subconscious mind would take over our conscious mind.

And during this past weekend, I attended a workshop on internet where the trainer talked about replacing the negative beliefs with the positive ones.  He had us close our eyes and ran a positive affirmation meditation with us.  And the participants were left to think that if we believe in these positive beliefs hard enough, our beliefs would be replaced.

But, seriously, does that really work?  If you ask me, my answer is, “yes, it may”, during good times in our lives, when things are going the way we want, affirmation always works.  But, what happens when things are not going our way, when we lose our job, our loved ones, something of great value to us.

It’s during these time that we get to find out what our beliefs really are and how much we really believe what we have been affirming all along.

About My Purpose in Life

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 Had a really heartfelt experience these few days.  I got to tap into a few experiences in my past that held the keys to determining how I perceived and interacted with the world outside.  I got to see that it wasn’t what happened that was the problem, it was really the story that I told myself what happened that was the problem. And in the past, I continued to live out over and over again this past experience.  However, this time, it is different.  By undoing the past, I come to experience life through a new pair of eyes, not through the same old pair of tinted glasses.

As a certified facilitator, I worked with many people on their stressful thoughts and beliefs.  The greatest blessing for me in doing that is it has helped me to have higher/greater awareness of my own thoughts and beliefs.  Every now and then when I identified the dark space in the attic of my mind and shone light into those areas, it humbled me to see that we are all on the same ground – no one has higher wisdom than the other person except the equal privilege to find out what is true for ourselves.

I am truly grateful for this self-realization experience and I come to see that to start living out this realization in this world is my only purpose in life.

Do you believe everything you think, hear and see?

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I have been coming in touch with some reading materials that gave “solid” proofs that the 9/11 attack in New York City was started by Israelis and not by Osama bin Laden’s Al Queda.

As I finished watching the video, I heard a question arising from within, “do you believe everything you think, hear and see?”  The mind tried to find an association and solicits an emotion.  Should I be angry that we are deceived by the media?  Who is behind this?  What happens if it is really this group of Israelis that attacked?  I have some Israelis friends from Katie’s connection, what does it mean?  Would they seem guilty now?

It’s fascinating to track the mind and watch what beliefs it still holds on to that are against our nature.

Waiting patiently to watch what comes up….

Consequences of believing everything you think

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A dear friend wrote me an email.  Shared with me his latest discovery in using The Work in his life.  Told me that he realized that all these time, he had been doing The Work at a very shallow level, only at the top level, that he has never taken the questions inside of him.  And he asked why during all those time together either in the workshop or in teleclass setting that I never told him the right way of doing The Work.

I just love his mind.  I love receiving his emails sharing with me his progress in using The Work and his realizations.  They are such wonderful gifts.

His email has reminded me of a time when I thought I had “It”, I got it figured out, I “know”, and before long, I was in a box, anticipating another chance of confirming the belief that “I know”.  I was no longer free to explore, to be a student again.

So now, every time my mind tells me that “I know, I got it!!!” I smile, I enjoy the thought and am aware of where it will lead me and if I feel that I am “tinted” by this thought, meaning, I can feel that I believe this thought, I investigate it before it gets into a big tantrum having to live it out in the world.

Yes… that is the outcome of believing everything you think!!!

The cost of wanting it our way

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A dear friend was stressed out.  She wanted her 5 year old son to live with her while in reality, he is living with his grandmother in the country side.  She had the thought that he would have a healthier life with her than with his grandmother.  She wanted to do The Work so that she can take away her stress that stops her from having her dream comes true.

“Take this hindrance away from making my dreams come true”.  That would be what her mind would say.  As I look at her situation, I realized that self-inquiry does help us to make our dreams come true.  It definitely can meet her there.  However, not in the way that she would think it is done.

If we look at everything we want to do in life, it comes from a thought.  In this case, her son will have a healthier life with her.  This could be one of the many thoughts that prompts her to want her son to live with her.  To me, thoughts are not wrong or right.  They are just natural phenomena.  The problem comes when we believe them and are attached to them.

If I want my son to live with me but my circumstances does not allow it now, and insist on wanting that, won’t I be killing over myself, blaming for not making that happen… and may even be led onto thoughts like I am not a good mother, or that he will grow up being someone “less than”.

And as I can take the time to sit and find how his not living with me could be as good or better thing, my mind settles and calm down.  I get to experience the reality in front of me,  the goodness of things happening.  And it doesn’t mean I will not work towards getting my son to live with me.  It just means I can continue having a life working towards it and not be stuck and paralyzed with the belief that it has to happen now.

Life seems to have more space when we take time to explore the space between our thoughts, emotions and actions.

 

Do I need goals in life?

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I came across a concept a few days ago as I was reading a book, “we all need goals in life”.  As I look at the concept, I noticed that I don’t have much reference to that.  And as I asked myself what my goals are, there were no image that came up.  I am not too sure what goals are to me, let alone my goals.

To many people, I may sound like a failure, a lost soul, or someone without an aim in life.  And I totally agree with how I could look that way… and the strange thing is I am ok with that.

And I could remembered the time when I used to have goals, especially goals that I want myself to have, goals that I think will be good for me, goals that I think will make me happier.  And I get to see that those are “standards” that I have taken on as my goals without checking in with myself, Really.  And the result is a lot of stress, denial and self-blame.

So, what is my goal to me now?  I do what comes up for me to do.  Let me see, I get up, I get to do the things I have planned and scheduled to do.  And when it comes to me to work on a project, I listen to it and stay open and see if it can be done and then work towards that OR don’t work towards it.  And it doesn’t mean it will not happen the next minute, day, or week.  I just can’t know.

However, I don’t force myself to do it like I used to, no more abuse from the inside.  Here is a mind that knows it can’t be controlled.  Frustrating, yes, it can be in the beginning.  And the mind that is more open looks for reasons why it is a good thing that it is not getting what it wants.  And it ain’t an easy job.  It’s real research work!!!  And when it finds those reasons, it rests in the balance, I love it that I have it and I also love it that I don’t have it.  And in that space, the clear mind arise and it rests in the experience of what it thought will bring it by having a goal and out of that fluid actions happen.

And that may look like a woman just sitting down in front of a T.V.

Isn’t that interesting?